HOW TO DEAL WITH HATERS?

My father used to say: Haters and jealous people are your confirmation that you are doing something right in your life. 

It’s not that easy to shake off haters. We all have a tendency to take negative comments to heart, even when we don’t know the person well. Even Mother Theresa had criticism & hatred directed at her. It doesn’t matter who you are or what positive influence you are trying to make in the world; haters will always exist. Nobody is exempt from jealousy and hatred, we are all subject to its cruelty during our life. However, you need to understand that their jealousy is caused by their own underlying issues & it is not your fault. Most jealousy is rooted in feelings of inadequacy.

These people see something in you that makes them feel they aren’t as good. It could be real or imagined, but the feelings of inadequacy are projected through negative thoughts or actions.
Instead of dealing with these underlying feelings of inadequacy, the jealousy turns into little digs and insults. The jealous person makes comments such as “it must be nice to get a new car every two years” and “wow, that purse must have cost enough to feed a small village for a month”. Those comments coming out of jealousy may make the person feel better momentarily, but they don’t address the underlying feelings and thus it will continue until the problem is addressed.
Even if this person begins making more money, or gets a better car& clothing, she will find a new friend to be jealous toward or something else with the existing person to be jealous about, bc the incompetency is the driving force, this is a powerful force.

There are ways to handle a jealous person and disarm him or prevent oneself from being exposed to his comments or actions. There is although no one size fits all solution to dealing w their hatred for each situation is unique & needs handling accordingly.

Delete, delete, delete

The era of social media has made it increasingly easy for people to hide behind their computer screen to hurl insults & jabs at people they know or even do not know. Much of these insults are coming from the person's own shortcomings & loser attitudes in their lives, which they take to social media through their protected platform to hide themselves & insult successful people.  They being rejected by the successful person for their lack of education, culture, manners, family status could be a soar point to bully the successful person.

There is power in the delete button. If someone is saying something negative about you on your personal page or forum then delete their comments. If their behavior persists, then unfriend or block the person. If you don’t have the ability to delete their comments, then block the person, so you don’t have to subject yourself to their comments. They will no longer be able to see you in the online forum.

You don’t have to tolerate online bullies. Delete them, to prevent yourself to being further subject to someone else’s jealousy that is based on their own insecurities.

Take the Issue head on

Sometimes having haters is a sign that you are doing things right in life and are successful. People who are jealous of you know that you are doing well and they want that for themselves. Rather than investing their time in making their own lives better, they try to bring others down.

Their insults, criticism & hate are directed at those who they know are better than them, so they try to look for faults in those people so they can think they are better in one way or another.

Don’t allow these people to bring you down. Keep being you and keep being successful. Don’t allow someone else’s own failures to prevent you from pursing your dreams. Often having people that dislike you in life is a sign that you are doing a lot right which is exactly why people don’t like you.

Remember some one who hates you normally hates you for one of the three reasons;
a) they either see you as a threat,
b) they want to be with you , but they can't, or
 c) they want to be YOU, and they can't

@e_britannica